How to Survive Coming-Out
- Bre
- Jul 11, 2017
- 2 min read
First of all, you may wonder why this is my first blog. That's because this is important to me. Bits is a safe place for young adults to express and enjoy themselves, those from the LGBTQ family and allies alike. It is important to be an ally, that is why this blog post is good for everyone. If you cannot relate, you can support.
1. Don't focus on labels, they're not for everyone.
What you are is irrelevant, coming-out is just about being able to openly express yourself as part of the community. Who you are is what is important. If you've found yourself, great! If you're still searching, then that's what the "Q" is for. You're questioning yourself and that's okay. Just be open minded that these labels may change as your identity develops.
2. Try on different labels
Although labels aren't for everyone, for some labels are exactly what they need. Although, try different things out to see what fits you the best and don't be afraid to change it. Don't let others label you, since you are the one who knows you best. Don't let these new labels make you think that you are someone different, it's only an expression of who you already are.
3. The hard part
This step is different for everyone and that's why it's so hard. It's impossible to predict the outcome but it's important to know there are other supports out there. That's why Bits was created! choose someone you can trust.
Be honest, that's why you started this process in the first place. Don't let anyone try to change the decision you've made. Most importantly, you might be pleasantly surprised how it all works out.
4. Be proud!
What you did wasn't easy but now that you are "out" be proud of who you are. Go to the local pride parade, join your school's GSA, and take part in the fun of being yourself. Here in Canada we have the right to be who we are, so enjoy the new community you are now part of.
5. Talk to others about your experience
Even if you're not open about it to everyone, acknowledge the people who are supporting you. Mental illness is a problem among minorities and the LGBTQ community, so understand there is always someone there to listen. This is why it is a good idea to make family and friends and option for who you come-out to first. Also, be an open ear for those who are going through the same thing.
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